Any Comments about how you think the momma is having twins. They probably aren’t, and they are VERY sure about that.
Any mention of the momma’s size. Women gain different amounts of weight and carry it in different places. The same woman can also have different experiences with weight in different pregnancies. Calling a momma “too big” or “too small” can really impact their view of themselves.
Momma is seeing a physician or midwife for a reason. While she is probably being respectful and listening to whatever advice you are giving, it is probably making her feel like you are undermining her doctor, and she may start to doubt what her doctor is saying. Leave the medical advice to the professionals!
What was the worst thing someone said to you during pregnancy?
Epidurals and Doulas... do they mix?
Yes they definitely do! A doula is there to support you mentally, emotionally, and physically, while an epidural just helps with the pain. Don't get me wrong! Pain relief is a wonderful thing, but its doubtful that an epidural is whispering words of encouragement in your ear when things get rough!
There are definitely some doulas out there that feel that they can not support you the way you need if you elect to have an epidural (before going to the hospital). The great thing is there are tons of us who think you should have the birth YOU want and will support you no matter what choices you make!
So... what does a doula do if I have an epidural?
First off we still give you all the support prior to going to the hospital, you still get prenatal visits, phone calls, text messages, emails (basically any method of communication you could want!). We want you to have a successful and healthy pregnancy and strive to do anything we can to make that happen!
We help keep your nerves and anxieties in check. Your pain may be under control but that doesn't mean mentally you aren't nervous, scared, or frustrated! We help you to understand and deal with all these feelings as they come!
We help with making sure you are comfortable. Yes an epidural limits you from leaving the bed, but we can still do tons in the bed to help you progress! Especially because you are numb, its good to have an extra set of hands when you need to shift and move!
We help you deal with whoever else is in the room. Spouse being needy? Mother getting on your nerves? Nurse that won't stop chatting? We're there to help make sure the environment is just as you need it to labor in peace.
We answer questions! Do you need to know what a medical term means? Do you need to understand what is coming next? We're there to help you comprehend everything that is going on around you AND with your body!
We are your gopher! This may sound silly but when you can't get out of bed for that long, you are probably going to want stuff! Need your chapstick? Need a sweater/headband/hair tie? We're there to get anything you need to keep you happy and comfortable.
We help with pushing! When the time comes we can help you get into a good position, conduct counter pressure, and help with breathing to ease baby out!
We're there for postpartum! If you are choosing to breastfeed we are there to help with latching and cues. If you have questions about your newborn, we are there to help and answer them so that when we leave you feel confident and comfortable!
I hope this helps you to see all the awesome benefits of still utilizing the services of a Doula, no matter what other choices you make during your labor!
So yesterday we discussed what the benefits with and Epidural are, but you're probably wondering about the risks as well right?
An epidural uses local anesthetics to block the nerves in the bottom half of the body. Thus providing pain relief to the directed area as opposed to "typical anesthetics" which are used to put someone to sleep for a procedure.
Some of the risks associated with an epidural are as follows:
For some moms, there are more intense and long term side effects such as;
Coming up tomorrow we will discuss what a Doula can still do to help your labor if you choose to have an epidural!
Approximately 60% of laboring moms with utilize an Epidural. Depending on your labor and how you are feeling mentally and physically, an epidural could be used as a method to prevent further interventions..
Wait... but someone told me that epidurals CAUSE more interventions...
This is called the "cascade of interventions" which can be caused by many different external factors. It doesn't just include epidurals but also induction, use of Pitocin, or strictly laboring in bed.
There are definitely risks to utilizing an epidural, but for some women it is exactly what they need to have the birth they desire...
Some of these benefits include:
Ultimately the decision of having an epidural is up to you! Listed below are some great resources to utilize in making the decision, but check back tomorrow for another post about Epidurals!
1.) The poop really isn't THAT bad- Due to the chemicals that are in disposable diapers (we in the cloth world call them "sposies") it causes urine and stool to smell even worse. When we began cloth diapering we were VERY fearful of what our nursery, house, diaper bag, etc. would smell like after those dreaded "blow out" diapers. We learned to keep a sticky air freshener in the diaper pail, what kind of "diaper pail" worked best (an $8.00 trash can with a swinging lid from Target) and how often to wash diapers so they didn't get completely gross (every 2-3 days at MAX!)
2.) Everyone has an opinion about cloth- The older generation thinks its "so cool" because they "did that back in the day". Then they want to learn all about those "modern things" because they just used towels and burp clothes. The new age parents are all about protecting the environment and think its great because we are protecting the landfills. Then they want to discuss all the water we're using to wash the diapers though. Crunchy parents think its great because we aren't exposing our babies to chemicals and wasting products. Lots of medical professionals (not all!) get mad because they can't weigh diapers at medical appointments or think theres something unsanitary about the whole process (and will blame every rash and illness on the diapers). Modern parents want to know why you would waste your time on something so "old school" and talk about how "nasty" the process might be.
3.) Its really not as hard as it looks!- There are TONS of different cloth diapering options! From ones that seem just like disposables but more pricey (AIO) to the seriously cheap option (Prefolds) to ones that you have to stuff (Pockets) and are at a "medium price point". There are tons of other types too but the point here is you can get as easy or difficult as you want. You can also find something for pretty much every price point (but remember that overall cloth is less expensive than disposables!)
4.) They're AWESOME for photo shoots!- Not only that but they are just plain cute! There are so many different designs and styles to dress up your baby's bottom! I'm pretty sure that we have used at least one cloth diaper for every photo shoot we've done! The only thing more adorable than a naked baby is a puffy cloth butt!
5.) Its not as time consuming as it seems!- I get a lot of people that ask "oh that must take you so much time!" It really doesn't! Once you get a wash routine down (and there are tons of great websites/Facebook groups to help with that) it probably takes you as much time as running to the grocery store every time you run out of disposable diapers! The best part about this is you can find a routine that works for YOU and YOUR FAMILY!
So did I convince you to try cloth? If you'd like to learn more about cloth diapering I've listed a few awesome links below, and the best part is if you have any questions I'm around to ask! (If you have a postpartum doula they can also help you learn the ins and outs of cloth!)
The Basics of Cloth-
Types of Diapers- http://www.thenaturalbabyco.com/guides/cd-guide/five-major-styles.html
Everything you could need to know about switching to cloth!- https://www.diaperlab.com/learn/
How to clean them- http://www.fluffloveuniversity.com/how-to-wash-cloth-diapers/how-to-properly-clean-your-cloth-diapers/
1.) Putting coconut oil (or another safe lubricant) on your flanges will help to prevent cracked nipples.
2.) DON’T SKIP NIGHT FEEDINGS!
3.) Measure your nipples (or get fitted) for the correct size flange!
4.) Being on the highest pump setting doesn’t necessarily mean more milk, sometimes it’s better to slow it down a bit!
5.) Shop around for a pump and find what fits YOUR needs best!
6.) Pump until you are empty, don’t just watch the clock
7.) Keep your pump parts in the fridge between sessions to cut down on washing
8.) Make sure you have a car charger if you are on the go often
9.) Hand express milk during and after pumping to make sure you are completely empty!
10.) Lay your milk bags flat in the freezer to save space and easier for transport in a cooler
11.) Look into silicone inserts for your flanges if you are having issues with fit or pain
12.) Drink lots of water!
13.) Keep taking your prenatal vitamins
14.) Purchase a hands free pumping bra!
15.) Don’t leave home without your pump or supplies! You never know when you might need it! (or keep a manual hand pump in your car for emergencies!)
16.) Make sure you have (at least) one set of extra pump parts
17.) Read your pumps manual and do some research! Youtube is a great place to start!
18.) Create a pumping schedule and (try to) stick to it!
19.) Relax while pumping! Watch a funny show, read a book, talk to a friend (it makes it go faster and you actually get more milk when you are relaxed!)
20.) Don’t go more than 3 hours in the beginning without pumping (realistically try to stay closer to every 2 hours)
Resources to Utilize!