aSo you've just started announcing you're pregnant... Well at this point you've only told 4 people...
Now you are terrified to tell anyone else because all four of those people had different opinions, ideas, and reasons for ways you HAVE to do things in your pregnancy, birth, and beyond right?
You have to keep telling people though, because obviously, its going to come up eventually.
So how do you figure out what advice is good, bad, or completely insane?
I'm going to be COMPLETELY honest here... There is no magical potion or way to know what is right, wrong, or completely insane.
You need to figure out what is going to work for you and your family. Sometimes advice is going to sound great at the time, and then become a crazy idea down the road, or at the time its crazy and you eventually try it.
Try to file away all the ideas, reasons, and methods, but don't be afraid to tell people that you don't think that will work for you or your family right now. Its okay to find your own path as a mother or parent. IT IS OKAY TO FAIL! All parents do at some point, and that is 100% okay. What you do with that experience is what is going to matter!
Its okay to tell Great Aunt Bethel that you've decided not to give baby mashed potatoes at 3 months old. Its okay to say you don't want to vaccinate your child. Its okay to say what you are feeling.
You are not required to take everyone's advice (or anyone's for that matter!)
You're thinking "But I don't want to hurt their feelings" Thats okay! You do not have to be mean about not wanting their advice! You can say something like "Aunt Bethel, I really love you sharing what you did with Timmy and Tommy, but we've decided that we don't want to feed Emma solids until she is X months old" or "Oh yes we looked at all the research but we've decided vaccines are something we don't want to do."
Usually, these people are well intentioned and don't realize for the 10 pieces of advice they give you, there are 20 more people also putting in their 10 pieces.
It can be SO overwhelming to be a new or expecting parent! Just try to keep in mind that everyone is there for you and trying to help in possibly the only way they know how!
Know that YOU are the expert on your body and your child, and have all the control of what you want to do, try, or experience!