Sitting in church last night the topic of our MOPs night was friendship. I sat there watching this video about how this mom had all these amazing friends and they all did life together. I know that she wasn't but it totally felt like she was sitting there gloating. She talked about how friends fight and you have to just get through it. It felt like she was talking to so many of us in the room.
Sure its great to have mom friends but where do you find them?
How do you not get discouraged when you don't find them right away?
What if the ones you thought were the "perfect friend" let you down?
and the worst but "has to be asked question"...
What happens when you value that friendship more than they do?
Most of my friends don't have children yet, so I feel like I've kind of been left on the curb as they've moved on. Its been hard, sad, and discouraging.
Trying to find new friends has also been hard, I mean its not like I'm in school anymore where I befriend the girl sitting next to me and we have nights of studying and coffee dates.
Where do I find friends in this new stage of life?
How do I make sure that my son has playmates?
I wanted to share what I have found since becoming a mom and where to find "mom friends" (even though I'm still working on this goal!) I could tell by the looks on some of the other mom's faces that they were as confused as lost as I am!
So here are 10 places to find "mom friends" and work towards having that utopia that the mom in the video talked about.
1.) The Library- just going and sitting with your children and looking at books or attending a library program will help you to get out there and be around other parents in a non threatening setting.
2.) The Park- Usually your children will go run and play and you will be on the sidelines, so why not reach out and talk to another mom or dad standing around too?
3.) Local "baby stores"- I've actually become friends with someone in the aisle at Modern Natural Baby (a local "crunchy" mom store)
4.) Mommy and Me Classes- this one is a little more challenging if you have a hard time putting yourself out there, but it forces you to be around a small group of moms, and through the weeks of class you will probably get to know each other.
5.) Local Parenting Classes- maybe take a CPR or First Aid class, something that is educational but gives you a little adult time.
6.) Adult Classes- Maybe its a painting class or a dance class but something that isn't "child based" and "adults only"
7.)Mom Groups- These are usually based for stay at home moms but some offer evening or weekend events too!
8.) Church- (this one may not be for everyone!) Most churches have children's events and allow the parents some time to socialize!
9.) Meetup.com- This is a great website where you can find local events and groups basically geared towards any interest you may have!!
10)Facebook Groups (or any social media)- These are great because you can talk and get to know people before you meet face to face!
Some Sites to Check Out!