Assistance with Cooking- Yes moms love to have people come over and swoon over the baby but many new moms just want to cuddle and snuggle that new bundle of joy themselves. Many new moms forget about eating and if they are breastfeeding it is especially important for them to be getting enough calories! Offer to bring take out, cook them a few freezer meals, or come over and cook them whatever they are in the mood for!
Making sure they have Groceries- Even though many ideas have changed about leaving the house right after baby is born, many mommas can’t or shouldn’t. If you are on your way to see momma and baby, call and see if you can stop and grab a few odds and ends. Many mommas won’t ask but if you call they may say how they’ve been out of their favorite juice or crackers for days.
Helping out with Cleaning- Mom and dad are probably busy getting to know their newborn and don’t have tons of time to clean. Especially if there are other kids in the house, the house can get out of control quick! Spend a few minutes vacuuming, picking up the kitchen or loading the dishwasher.
Alone Time- Some new families just want to be alone together to figure things out. Please don’t take this as an insult or get upset.
To Lay Off the Advice- New parents have advice coming out of their ears. It can be overwhelming and can make new parents lose their confidence. If a new parent wants your advice or opinion they will ask! Try to be supportive and encouraging. (This does not apply if something is being done that is dangerous or could harm the baby, in those cases, try to be very supportive and kind!)
A Nap- If you notice momma is really tired, offer to watch baby for a little while so she can get some sleep. Let her know you will come to get her if baby needs anything though! It’s hard in those first few weeks to trust someone else with that little bundle of joy!
A Shower- A shower can make you feel human again, especially if your baby spits up a lot! If you can’t get momma to go take a nap, suggest a shower! Not only will it help her to get clean, but it can also help ease that post labor/C-section pain!
If you do not have friends or family in the area a postpartum doula can be a great asset for you! They can help with all of these things and so much more! Please let me know if this is something you could be interested in and we can talk more!